Praise for Lessons In Forgetting

Anita Nair can handle it--a grim tale of a luminous, mercurial young girl shattered into a whimpering, cowering animal both by a stray log that comes crashing from the sea and the viciousness of men dealing in the illegal business of snuffing out female foetuses; a sorry story of a frothy corporate marriage that disintegrates like a delicate wine-glass knocked over by a careless bejewelled hand at a cocktail party; a touching chronicle of four generations of women in a family negotiating disparate yet entwined lives; a fragile vision of two lost souls swimming in a fish bowl, until they shore up against the promise of possible redemption in each other--all of it, with the expert flair of a chef extraordinaire whipping up featherweight meringues to match the lightness and delicate sweetness of souls. Nair's latest, Lessons in Forgetting, is like an experience in fine dining--it tantalises your palate and makes you want to chew slowly upon its offerings, and it makes you want to linger at the table just a little while longer……

Here, indeed, is a novel well worth remembering.

- India Today
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A Times of India Sunday Life Pick of the week: Cyclone. This violent depression of Nature becomes a metaphor for the sweeping changes that strike our lives in Anita Nair’s new novel, “Lessons In Forgetting”…. her most intense book….an intimate exploration of duty, betrayal and the frail beauty of second chances…these are powerful emotional chords… - Times of India

Satirical, topical, reflective of new-age desi definitions, Lesson in Forgetting, Anita Nair’s latest novel, innovatively adapts to cyclones. Opting for a larger canvas this time, Nair picks her way through emotional upheavals and social asides while toning down sentimentality to just the right pitch.

As youth matures faster and ageing reverses with technological help and psycho-speak, mid-life crises are no longer explicable with a one-liner about ‘change’ or ‘that time of life’. To zero in on not just that difficult gray-area vintage but to contextualise, inlay with detail and tell multiple stories that weave into a central feeling that can resonate in readers’ hearts need that right mix of literary lineage and storytelling skills.From an author who speaks knowingly of better men and better women, here is a better book.

- The Week

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Drawing parallels between life and the unpredictability of cyclones, shifting between multiple points of view and likening Meera’s story to that of the mythological Hera’s would seem to serve up an over-rich mix. But Nair pulls it off, maintaining a taut pace as Jak begins his quest, thankfully refraining from getting overly mawkish and eventually providing a longed-for redemptive ending without the triteness that could quite easily have accompanied it. Lessons in Forgetting provides an ultimately satisfying read…

- Outlook Magazine

Anita Nair talks about writing in urban India, the role of a corporate wife as explored in her latest book 'Lessons In Forgetting' and her forthcoming works

– The Business World

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There is a place, somewhere between the complexity of highbrow literature and mindless prattle of chick-lit, where judicious stories of ordinary people can be told. Anita Nair slid into that place nine years ago when she published her breakout novel Ladies Coupe….Nair gives us a look into the lives that we now lead in cities. She makes a statement about the fragility of the modern Indian marriage and the overwhelming challenges of raising our children in a milieu we no longer have a handle on. When Meera ponders about where exactly she went wrong as a wife, it reflects our incomprehension of the role we are expected to play as a partner. As Jak retraces his daughter’s path, we think along with him about how much freedom we should allow our children.

The realistic portrayal of Nair’s character is inducement enough for the reader to keep turning the pages….—and is a perfect fit for those in-between times when Salman Rushdie seems too much and Sophie Kinsella too little.

– The Mint
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With her latest novel Lessons in Forgetting, Nair has done just the opposite of writing something “that doesn’t demand intellectual or emotional engagement from the reader”. An intense look at marriage, parenthood, destiny and relationships, the book also packs in themes such as the cyclical nature of events in our lives and redeeming our mistakes —all this along with strong portraits of finely etched and far-from-perfect but identifiable characters.

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Over her novels, Anita Nair’s finely delineated characters have got etched into our memories, especially the women. Meera and JAK, both caught up by unexpected disaster, add to that canon.

- The Financial Express
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Lessons in Forgetting makes for a memorable read…. Nair writes with exacting precision about the disintegration of marriages among the middle-class…. With carefully orchestrated shifts in points of view, Nair describes how every woman has had to make painful choices in order to assert and retain their sense of self

– The New Indian Express

This is Nair's fourth book and there is no doubt about one thing: she gets better with each one. … it's all there in the book: cyclones and catastrophes, man-made and wrought by nature; love, dependency and betrayal, female foeticide, Page Three parties. It's a story told at an unhurried pace by an accomplished writer.

– The Hindu Literary

Review Anita Nair weaves her story with the consummate skill of a born story-teller with hard to forget nuggets. Never once does the interest of the reader falter. She completely reinvents story telling. Lessons In Forgetting is a story of real people in a real but far from perfect country, where female feticide still happens with impunity. It is also a story of forgiveness redemption and second chances. It is a story that inspires moves, motivates and forces you to think all this even as it holds you spell bound.

– Business world





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